Four Ways to Create a Child-Centered Divorce

Few people get married with the intention to divorce, but sometimes, due to irreparable damage, divorce is best case scenario for everyone involved. Children will likely be sad, angry, and shocked. You can’t save your kids from those feelings, but it’s up to you whether your children experience security and understanding versus anxiety and self-blame. [...]

Forever. For Real. for Couples in Stepfamilies!

The Oklahoma Marriage Initiative is hosting two one-day Forever. For Real. workshops, designed for couples in stepfamilies on July 17 in Tulsa and July 24 in Oklahoma City. We’re hoping to get a great turn out for these events! Come and learn the major differences between first families and stepfamilies, be guided through how to [...]

Money Matters

When couples are asked “What are the major sources of conflict in marriage?” the top two sited topics are sex and money. Still, people often site financial reasons as a reason to move in together. They think, “We’re going to save money on rent, food, etc. We’ll have twice the resources and therefore half the [...]

How Can I Help?

Once people understand that children of divorce are at risk for unnecessary anxiety, sadness, and the behavioral consequences of poorly managed emotions, almost immediately, they express their desire to help. The wonderful thing about our cause is that there are solutions! Adults can make a huge difference, by passing on their wisdom and experience, acknowledging [...]

Meeting Your Child’s Needs After Divorce

Children need security, structure, and stability, emotional support and guidance, and positive examples of healthy relationships and emotional management skills. These needs are particularly salient after divorce. The best ways to help your children after divorce are just actions aimed at meeting these needs. No one can meet your child’s needs better than you can, [...]